There are thousands of people addicted to drugs and alcohol in the United States. For each one, there are parents, siblings, relatives, and friends who care greatly about them. Perhaps you are one of these compassionate people. Maybe you are wondering if the person you care for is addicted to alcohol or drugs. How will you know for sure?
Have you asked that question of yourself yet? The answer is you probably have more than once. If you notice a loved one’s life, health, finances, job, etc., is being affected by substances, then it’s possible they have an addiction problem.
Observe their behavior for a while to see if you notice anything that becomes suspicious. If you have already done that and believe there is a problem, share what you observed with other family members and ask if they noticed the same thing. They probably have noticed it, too.
If everyone believes your loved one might have a substance abuse problem, decide which one of you will talk to them about getting help. This person should be someone who can be non-judgmental and non-accusatory, yet loving and warm.
The most effective ways in which to communicate with an addicted person include:
Also, it might be wise to consider these suggestions before having a conversation about addiction with your loved one.
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Expect the conversation to be a difficult one. People with addictions react in different ways depending on many factors such as their job, legal situation, the substance of abuse, financial situation, level of acceptance or denial, etc. However, there are things you can do if someone resists the idea of going into a treatment program.
The games some people with addiction might play to avoid talking about getting help, to avoid family meetings that are directed toward their substance abuse, or any get-together—singly or in a group—that could be uncomfortable for them might seem familiar.
Bluffing is a common tactic used. Loved ones who try to bluff by saying or showing you that you are the one who is not trusted for whatever reason. You are the one with the problem. Not them.
Hiding the implements of their addiction is also common. If it’s drugs, the drug and its paraphernalia will be hidden, and the same ploy works for alcohol addiction and other types.
It’s OK to respect the privacy of someone with an SUD. At the same time, if you find the implements of drug or alcohol abuse, it’s time to approach the subject.
Sometimes, the one with a substance abuse disorder will throw the word taboo at you. It is taboo to tell anyone that there is an addiction problem in the family.
Exposing it will bring shame to you and the family.
The way to deal with that is to ask others if they have noticed that the loved one has a problem with substances before approaching the loved one.
Theft sometimes occurs in and out of the home when there is an SUD in the family. Whether its cash from a purse or wallet or valuable items missing, stealing happens. This is how someone who is addicted pays for their substance of choice. Acknowledge the theft to the loved one with the addiction. If you don’t feel safe doing this, seek advice from an objective party.
There are several different options for addiction treatment.
The one that will be the best fit will be the one that offers medical detoxification and ongoing treatments to work with any concurrent mental or physical health problems. Delphi Behavioral Health Group’s family of substance abuse centers located in convenient areas in the United States offer evidence-based therapies to treat addiction – medically, psychologically, and spiritually.
Take time to explore and research the courses of treatment and therapy options for whichever substance of abuse your loved one indulges. Addiction is a treatable chronic disease, and there is hope for your beloved.
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Partnership for Drug-Free Kids. Helping an Adult Family Member or Friend with a Drug or Alcohol Addiction. June 2014. Retrieved May 2019 from https://drugfree.org/parent-blog/want-help-adult-family-member-friend-drug-alcohol-problem-7-suggestions/
National Institute on Drug Abuse What to Do If Your Adult Friend or Loved One Has a Problem with Drugs from https://www.drugabuse.gov/related-topics/treatment/what-to-do-if-your-adult-friend-or-loved-one-has-problem-drugs
Verywellmind. Recognize Addict Behavior by These Childhood Games 5 Games Addicts Might Play. Hartney, Elizabeth Ph.D. November 03, 2018. Retrieved May 2019 from https://www.verywellmind.com/addicts-and-the-games-they-play-22427
Al-Anon from https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon from https://www.nar-anon.org/